8 Things I’ve Learned From a Dying Man
The news hit me like a sledgehammer. My world shattered into pieces. I knew this day would arrive, but I haven’t expected it to be like this. My uncle suffered from the deadly virus right after he went home taking care of his sick brother two weeks early.
The initial symptoms were normal. Flu-like symptoms that worsened as days pass. He was the most high-spirited person in our family. A kind-of-person that can make you smile even when you don't feel like smiling at all.
He was not even supposed to get sick like this. But life is unpredictable, so death doesn’t give you time to think about it.
On the positive side, I’ve concluded some life-lessons from the death of my uncle.
I hope that these lessons teach you something about living a healthy, happy, and meaningful life.
1. Live Fully, Die Peacefully
My uncle left this world at peace. He was a jolly guy. He treated each day as an opportunity to change the world. Little by little, he worked his way into the heart and minds of people. He died peacefully because he was prepared for the world ahead of him. An afterlife that some people don’t believe. But soon, they will once they wake up from their graves to the grand question and answer session from the CREATOR.
In life, you’ll be given choices every day. What you do with them will make or break your life. Whatever you do, do it with love. Because after hard work, love is what matters the most. Maybe people might not appreciate you for your choices or your genuine work, but you need to make peace with yourself in your heart. That’s how you leave a situation without regretting it.
2. Do More Good While You Are Alive
I am all up for paying charity for the people who died. But somewhere, it makes me uncomfortable. I mean, do good while you are alive. Do that charity, cook something for your loved one, open a door for a stranger, or do something meaningful for someone.
These little good things add a lot later into your life. Some people do good and share it proudly with the world. Well. Guess what, that good is not worth it. Keep your good deeds between you and GOD. No one else needs to know that you are good.
In Islam, they say, ‘Do good with one hand in such a way that the other hand never finds about it.’ That’s the most wonderful piece of advice I would like you to follow it. Don’t wait for the right time. Just do whatever is right.
3. Your Immediate Family Is a Blessing
When was the last time you hugged your parents or siblings? If you haven’t done it for some time, go out there and do so. Regardless of what conflicts you had with the family, they are the only ones who will help you when a calamity hits you.
Put all your differences aside and tell them how much you love them. For some people (like me), it’s hard to express. In that case, could you share them with a written word? It would help if you told them how much you adore them. Choose whatever medium is the right fit for you.
Make a habit of doing something every day or week. Maybe a gift to your family and let them know how much you love them.
4. Money Is a Good Servant; But The Worst Enemy
If you worry too much about money, you’ll end up regretting it. You’ll always be complaining about not enough money. The more you regret it, the difficult it will get.
If you are talented, you will be able to earn enough to survive. But don’t run towards money. Take what is necessary and give more charity. The more you give, the easier your life will become. When you give out money, GOD sends countless blessings towards your way.
Grab a good book like Rich Dad, Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki and understand how you can make the most of whatever you have.
5. Do What You Love And Avoid Making Regrets Later
Your life is a gift, and if you want to live it fully, you need to do whatever you love. Every day, do one thing that you love the most. For me, it’s reading. You can pick one thing that excites you and make time for it.
If you don’t do it, you’ll regret your deathbed. I am telling you this with an experience that most people regret things that they didn’t do. The chances they missed and the opportunities they didn’t take. Don’t let the world prevent you from doing things that mean the world to you.
6. Judge Slowly But Forgive Quickly
Stop judging people for their acts. Look deeper into their heart and find the reason why they did what they did. If you feel someone did wrong to you, forgive them fast and move on with your life. Don’t let their acts divert you from what good you have in you.
Maybe someone was having a bad day, and you just added some fuel to it. Don’t assume things. And stop making judgments based upon a story you heard from someone. There is always a good reason for someone to act in a certain way.
Whatever you do, forgive people for whatever bad they did to you. Make a small prayer for them and move on. Trust me; you’ll sleep peacefully the moment you start forgiving people.
7. It’s Your Life, Your Responsibility
Stop blaming others. Stop blaming the environment. It’s your responsibility to take control of your life. Don’t let others make your life decisions. If something didn’t work out in your life, think of the reasons and try everything in your hand to change it.
Enough of reading and watching videos. It’s time to take some action. When you feel stuck in life, take a break. Go for a walk. Meditate. Or think of a different strategy to do that thing.
8. Be Conscious About How You Spend Your Time
Your time in this world is limited. Make a list of things that means a lot to you and get done with that list. Choose meaningful goals in life. Value relationships. Make every minute count.
I’ve learned that you need to stop wasting time on regrets. Do the things that add value to your life or help anyone around you. Avoid things that don’t add much to your life. Your life is a precious gift from GOD. Don't let the time slip away like this.
Live your life the way you want. Do the things that excite you. Have fewer regrets and forgive people fast. And stop blaming others for your mistakes.
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